Thursday, December 9, 2010

On Blogging...

When you have a have no editor.  You do have an edit button, but you have to find your own mistakes and/or bad choices.  That is unless you have family who reads your blog and is shocked and appalled by what you have written and they feel the need to point it out to you. of my family members brought to my attention something rather ugly that I said in a post about one of my children.  It wasn't exactly about the child -but the child's behavior. I love my children dearly.  I hope that comes across here.  I do not however always "like" their behavior -in fact sometimes I hate it.  I am appalled by it. I want to run away from it. Therefore my writing may not come across as this loving, rosy picture of a life that I wish I had, but I don't.

One day my children may read this blog.  There may be some things that I write that they don't like.  I hope that when and if they do read it, they can see the big picture.  Mom is writing this blog to help educate the world about the reality of Aspergers -the good, the bad and the ugly.  Temple Grandin's story wasn't all pretty.  She had some pretty bad meltdowns at times.  Her story was real and so is ours.

These are my confessions! Usher (the singer/songwriter -and his confessions were a bit scandalous as well).  Thus this is called "Confessions of An Aspergers Mom".  It's not called "What is your personal Opinion?" (although you are welcome to leave them as a comment) or "Life is Rosy at My House!"

I have read other blogs in the autism community where mothers come across as angelic.  Where the love of their children shines through so clearly -your heart is warmed by it.  There are blogs that are all about inspiration -what huge accomplishments children with autism have made.  There are completely educational, very professionally written blogs that can be quite frankly, rather intimidating.  Then there are those that fall somewhere in-between -the real nitty gritty, the nuts and bolts of every day life and the struggle of raising special needs children, or the not so pretty side of what having a disability Aspergers is really like. I love them all. Each blog has something special to bring to the table. I love being a part of this community.

Yes -I use creative license at times in order to make the writing humorous.  Exaggeration may be used to make a point.  That is my prerogative as a writer.  For me writing is a therapeutic release.  Most things that I say are a matter of opinion -my opinion and I am entitled to it.

Writing is an Art.  If  an artist sits around thinking about what others will think of their work -they may very well be too afraid to allow the world to see their art.  If the artist looks at other's work and says, "Wow -that is so good! I could never be that good."  There would be no art, or what we have would be extremely limited.

There is room in the world for every artist, every story and every struggle -even if the picture isn't always so pretty.


  1. As the parent of two children with special needs -- one of them having Asperger's -- I can flat-out say that there are times that are pretty darn stinky. Coping with the stink can be very difficult. If writing it out helps you cope, I would hope that loving family members would encourage you to do so. If they don't like the content, they certainly don't have to read it. Maybe they could help your family in different ways.

  2. I completely agree! I've always said that most blogs I read seem a little fake; all happy and none of the bad. I blog about both, but sometimes I blog so much "bad" that people start thinking I don't love my kids or that I'm always angry. It's not true; I'm just pointing out what's happened recently. I try to point out the good too, but for us moms with special kids, sometimes the good is few and far between.

  3. Thank you Moms! You all are one of the reasons that I write. I love the support that comes from those who share the journey.

  4. As someone who has dealt with an Asperger kid for 21 years, your posts are very "real" and appreciated by me. It helps me to realize that I'm not the only one who has these thoughts in my head! If someone took them the wrong way they probably need to live with the Asperger kid for about, let's say, a week and I bet they would understand a little better! Keep it comin' sister!

  5. I love how you said this blog is not called "What is your personal opinion?" Perfect!

  6. Karen, agreed. As we talked at our "brunch" that day in November. Remember when I said that my so called "friend" didn't want to here my take on the bad side of raising and apergers child. She claimed me to be a horrible mother for saying anything negative about my son. It never diminishes our love for them and I certainly don't say those things to his face. Those who don't have one, have no clue!! end of story!! It's not a bed of roses. It's rough and as hard as we try, sometimes niceness doesn't work for them. I've learned as time goes on and I age in life. I really don't give a crap what anyone thinks about me anymore. It's my life as it is your life and we have a right to lead as we choose. People need to get off their high horses and stick to worrying about themselves. End of my soapbox.

  7. Joy -been thinking about you and your boys. We need to get together again. Shoot me an e-mail or vice versa. Glad you're still reading.

  8. really an eye opener for me.

    - Robson