This week I got to spend some good quality time with Blue while Red was in camp for 4 hours a day. Selfishly -I would rather have spent that time alone with my thoughts, writing away, shopping, lunching and maybe even a little afternoon drinking. Blue had another plan. He likes hanging out with me in coffee houses with his laptop (which is my old one) and me with my laptop writing away. Of course, that completely cuts out the drinking. We do a little lunching and shopping and walking at the mall for exercise.
It was actually fun. He is such a delight to spend time with. The contrast between him and both of his brothers is stark...vast...huge! He is on the spectrum and he does have a lot of anxiety and misreads social cues. But as he gets older and matures...he seems to get better. Red seems to get more obnoxious! Of course the medicine helps tremendously! Blue is so compassionate and he really seems to care about my feelings. He may say things that come across as rude or blunt...but if I bring it to his attention, he will apologize and then actually try to do better the next time.
During our time together, he will not let me go through a door without opening it for me and holding it for any other ladies in sight.
He is an adamant rule follower. I am not. I skirt around rules that I feel are not important or inconvenient. I can't get him to join the rule skirting party to save my life. We are on a side street on our way to a pizza joint for lunch. I decide to cross the street in the shade instead of walking to the crosswalk.
"Mom! You're jay-walking! You can't do that!"
"Oh come on! It's shady over here. Besides, there are no cars coming."
He ignores me and goes to the cross walk. Pushes the button and waits for the light to change.
Later that day, we stop at the groomer to pick up the dog. It's 100 plus degrees. The groomer is about to close in five minutes. There are no other customers in the parking lot. In fact, we are the last ones to pick up our dog. I know this. I park in the handicap spot...in the shade. I don't even turn off the car so that the air-conditioning can continue to run while I run in.
"Mom! This is the second law you have broken today!"
I guess I don't have to worry about this one ever going to jail...or even getting a ticket!
Here are some funnies from my Facebook Community Page:
Joanne Lees says: "Mum...why does Fiona have chickens?"
"Because they lay eggs."
"Why doesn't she just go to the shop?"
Sharon from Mama's Turn Now says:
While arguing with Jay (my 10 year old Aspie) he says, "I'm done talking!"
I tell him, "We are not done talking!"
He says, "I have the constitutional right not to talk! So yes...I'm done!"
He walks away leaving me with my mouth hanging open.
Kristy (my Aspie Mama from Australia) says:
Person 1: Knock knock.
Person 1: Knock knock.
Person 1: I said, knock knock!
Aspie: Go AWAY!
Last but not least, we have Elena:
G3 just spit on G1...I tole him to remove himself from the room. "We are not animals!"
He stomps out of the room. "I hate you!"
30 seconds later he comes back in to say, "Did you know that humans are mammals and mammals are 1 of the 6 animal groups?
We all just stare at him.
He says, "Yeah...didn't think so! Goodnight!"
I just love that G3!
Happy Friday! Wishing you laughter today and everyday...
It was actually fun. He is such a delight to spend time with. The contrast between him and both of his brothers is stark...vast...huge! He is on the spectrum and he does have a lot of anxiety and misreads social cues. But as he gets older and matures...he seems to get better. Red seems to get more obnoxious! Of course the medicine helps tremendously! Blue is so compassionate and he really seems to care about my feelings. He may say things that come across as rude or blunt...but if I bring it to his attention, he will apologize and then actually try to do better the next time.
During our time together, he will not let me go through a door without opening it for me and holding it for any other ladies in sight.
He is an adamant rule follower. I am not. I skirt around rules that I feel are not important or inconvenient. I can't get him to join the rule skirting party to save my life. We are on a side street on our way to a pizza joint for lunch. I decide to cross the street in the shade instead of walking to the crosswalk.
"Mom! You're jay-walking! You can't do that!"
"Oh come on! It's shady over here. Besides, there are no cars coming."
He ignores me and goes to the cross walk. Pushes the button and waits for the light to change.
Later that day, we stop at the groomer to pick up the dog. It's 100 plus degrees. The groomer is about to close in five minutes. There are no other customers in the parking lot. In fact, we are the last ones to pick up our dog. I know this. I park in the handicap spot...in the shade. I don't even turn off the car so that the air-conditioning can continue to run while I run in.
"Mom! This is the second law you have broken today!"
I guess I don't have to worry about this one ever going to jail...or even getting a ticket!
Here are some funnies from my Facebook Community Page:
Joanne Lees says: "Mum...why does Fiona have chickens?"
"Because they lay eggs."
"Why doesn't she just go to the shop?"
Sharon from Mama's Turn Now says:
While arguing with Jay (my 10 year old Aspie) he says, "I'm done talking!"
I tell him, "We are not done talking!"
He says, "I have the constitutional right not to talk! So yes...I'm done!"
He walks away leaving me with my mouth hanging open.
Kristy (my Aspie Mama from Australia) says:
Person 1: Knock knock.
Person 1: Knock knock.
Person 1: I said, knock knock!
Aspie: Go AWAY!
Last but not least, we have Elena:
G3 just spit on G1...I tole him to remove himself from the room. "We are not animals!"
He stomps out of the room. "I hate you!"
30 seconds later he comes back in to say, "Did you know that humans are mammals and mammals are 1 of the 6 animal groups?
We all just stare at him.
He says, "Yeah...didn't think so! Goodnight!"
I just love that G3!
Happy Friday! Wishing you laughter today and everyday...
Logging you in...
Adelaide Dupont · 285 weeks ago
And for those of us who knew and appreciated these points in high school to a greater or lesser extent - always good to have a refresher and feel them through the current and future generations who we survived to be able to see.
I especially appreciated points 5, 7 and 10.
And young women not settling or settling down yet is a good thing.
"It's never too late to live our dreams" - but it may be too early for some of them!
And 8 of course.
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Maira L. Coral · 216 weeks ago
I was looking for information for my Multi-Genre Disability Research Project from my Early Childhood Special Education class on the web, when suddenly I came across your blog. I started reading this out of curiosity and I want to tell you that as you said yourself, you will not be Amanda Gorman, but you managed to make me shed some tears, perhaps because I felt totally identified with your words, especially in the part that you speak of your son. My son also has Asperger's syndrome, he is 19 years old and he is in the second semester of College. Also like yours, he takes classes from home, likewise my eldest daughter is also taking college classes from her room. At the same time, that I work as a preschool teacher from my kitchen through a computer, my husband sleeps in the room during the day because he works at night. Also in the afternoons I myself take virtual school classes. I am a 51-year-old Latin woman who began to learn the English language as adult, so maybe you find some deficiencies in my writing, however, I was very moved by how proud you express yourself about your son. Referent your mother, I liked the humorous tone that you give when your talk about her, so I did not want to miss this opportunity and stopped my assignments for a moment to let you know that your words do make a difference, since they reach the heart of at least those who have opportunity to read you. I want confess you that is the most long I have written to someone I don't know, because your words inspired me, thank you...
Gavin Bollard · 209 weeks ago
Thanks for this post. I've been very distracted of late and so this was how I found out about our friend Kate. Kate's struggles were very real but they were so constant and so wide-ranging that it was difficult for people around her to address them. I think it's going to take a while longer for me to process all this.
I learned so much from Kate because she was always quick to point out the many injustices in the world. In her glory days, she was very much a crusader and she cared for everyone. Over the years, as her situation took its toll, I came to realise that it was the fact that she couldn't be put in a single specific category, that made the system fail her. She needed help that they weren't set up to provide.
She needed more care and she needed to be less alone. I'm so sorry that this has happened.
For a long while we were corresponding almost every day but a couple of months ago, I realised that she had become so stressed that nearly every interaction I had with her was starting to trigger her. I backed away to give her a bit more space. She only had a little time that she could stand to be online and there were too many things that she wanted to do in that time. I thought that by taking a step back, she could reach out to more people who might be geographically closer and able to assist.
Kate was a beautiful soul and she will be sorely missed by all of us.
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Spoil your cat · 122 weeks ago
Many of these living arrangement aren't good, and many of the people who run those places really don't have the residents' best interest at heart. Those places are like old age homes and foster homes, where you sometimes hear horror stories. They're hard to trust. But then there are good ones, of course.
The best thing for an autistic adult is either to go on living at home or working and renting an apartment and living independently, but that isn't always an option.
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