Then hubby has an attitude with me and is obviously going through some kind of male "time of the month". He's stressed because he not only had to walk in my shoes dealing with stressful situations with the kids, but in the middle of that he had to deal with the death of his great Aunt (who passed away last week at the age of 97). He's also stressing over work issues...after all work is so much a part of who he is.
With that said, I can almost guarantee that when I go away for a few days and have fun...that does not include him, he will give me the funky attitude when I come home. Even if on one side of his mouth, he's saying he's happy for me, on the other side of his mouth --he's a little pissed that I have some semblance of a life that does not include him. If he reads this, he will vehemently disagree. However, I have been married to the man for 17 years...I think I know him by now. I know his patterns, his moods, and his various personalities. Do not think for one moment that any of this will stop me from going away the very next time I get the chance! I love going away with him...but I also love going away without him. He travels for business and sometimes to see family, without me all the time. I think that's one of the reasons our marriage has lasted this long.
I visited my brother's church while I was away. The Pastor reminded us to put Jesus in the drivers seat and go along for the ride. I am riding along with him, doing what he tells me to do. I am taking my life in stride --not letting it all bog me down. I am strengthened, fortified by my time away. I am floating on a cloud above the mire, refusing to get dirty and overwhelmed by the reality of my life. That's what a vacation can do for ya!
So for all of you moms and dads who feel too guilty to take time for yourself...get over it! Take a girls weekend --go to the spa! Go play a round of golf. Go out for happy hour! Go to a coffeehouse and take a book! Get away! Take a break and come home fortified, ready to dig through the trenches and deal with the reality that is Aspergers and raising a family. You deserve it and your family will be all the better for you getting what you need.
p.s.
I am obsessed with looking at my stats seeing who came by to read, who took the time to click the Top Mommy link, etc. I have a reader in Bowling Green, Ohio who always votes for me. I would love to know who you are and thank you personally! For the rest of you readers...GET TO WORK!!! That is...if you like my blog!
So for all of you moms and dads who feel too guilty to take time for yourself...get over it! Take a girls weekend --go to the spa! Go play a round of golf. Go out for happy hour! Go to a coffeehouse and take a book! Get away! Take a break and come home fortified, ready to dig through the trenches and deal with the reality that is Aspergers and raising a family. You deserve it and your family will be all the better for you getting what you need.
p.s.
I am obsessed with looking at my stats seeing who came by to read, who took the time to click the Top Mommy link, etc. I have a reader in Bowling Green, Ohio who always votes for me. I would love to know who you are and thank you personally! For the rest of you readers...GET TO WORK!!! That is...if you like my blog!
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Adelaide Dupont · 285 weeks ago
And for those of us who knew and appreciated these points in high school to a greater or lesser extent - always good to have a refresher and feel them through the current and future generations who we survived to be able to see.
I especially appreciated points 5, 7 and 10.
And young women not settling or settling down yet is a good thing.
"It's never too late to live our dreams" - but it may be too early for some of them!
And 8 of course.
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Maira L. Coral · 216 weeks ago
I was looking for information for my Multi-Genre Disability Research Project from my Early Childhood Special Education class on the web, when suddenly I came across your blog. I started reading this out of curiosity and I want to tell you that as you said yourself, you will not be Amanda Gorman, but you managed to make me shed some tears, perhaps because I felt totally identified with your words, especially in the part that you speak of your son. My son also has Asperger's syndrome, he is 19 years old and he is in the second semester of College. Also like yours, he takes classes from home, likewise my eldest daughter is also taking college classes from her room. At the same time, that I work as a preschool teacher from my kitchen through a computer, my husband sleeps in the room during the day because he works at night. Also in the afternoons I myself take virtual school classes. I am a 51-year-old Latin woman who began to learn the English language as adult, so maybe you find some deficiencies in my writing, however, I was very moved by how proud you express yourself about your son. Referent your mother, I liked the humorous tone that you give when your talk about her, so I did not want to miss this opportunity and stopped my assignments for a moment to let you know that your words do make a difference, since they reach the heart of at least those who have opportunity to read you. I want confess you that is the most long I have written to someone I don't know, because your words inspired me, thank you...
Gavin Bollard · 209 weeks ago
Thanks for this post. I've been very distracted of late and so this was how I found out about our friend Kate. Kate's struggles were very real but they were so constant and so wide-ranging that it was difficult for people around her to address them. I think it's going to take a while longer for me to process all this.
I learned so much from Kate because she was always quick to point out the many injustices in the world. In her glory days, she was very much a crusader and she cared for everyone. Over the years, as her situation took its toll, I came to realise that it was the fact that she couldn't be put in a single specific category, that made the system fail her. She needed help that they weren't set up to provide.
She needed more care and she needed to be less alone. I'm so sorry that this has happened.
For a long while we were corresponding almost every day but a couple of months ago, I realised that she had become so stressed that nearly every interaction I had with her was starting to trigger her. I backed away to give her a bit more space. She only had a little time that she could stand to be online and there were too many things that she wanted to do in that time. I thought that by taking a step back, she could reach out to more people who might be geographically closer and able to assist.
Kate was a beautiful soul and she will be sorely missed by all of us.
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Spoil your cat · 121 weeks ago
Many of these living arrangement aren't good, and many of the people who run those places really don't have the residents' best interest at heart. Those places are like old age homes and foster homes, where you sometimes hear horror stories. They're hard to trust. But then there are good ones, of course.
The best thing for an autistic adult is either to go on living at home or working and renting an apartment and living independently, but that isn't always an option.
Duncan · 112 weeks ago