WARNING this post contains Mature Content...or Immature Content...depends on how you look at it:
I know for sure that I live in the craziest house in Texas....or at least in my neighborhood. There can not be another house where you have a 16-year-old son that comes in the house from school without even saying hello and asks, "Will you and dad let me have sex as long as it's protected --in my room?" Followed up by an intense fight with his younger brother...and then off to church with some new friends from school where he has the "best time ever"?! Yep-this is a f-ing crazy house!
I don't know. This whole ...having no filter thing can be a little much for me sometimes. I'm just not ready, nor do I think I will ever be ready, for the whole sex conversation with this boy. I feel like it's inappropriate for me as his mother to get into this detailed conversation with him.
"Talk to your father, your older brother, your uncles, your pastor --anyone but me!" I tell him.
Apparently -there was some conversation going on about the subject at school with a bunch of other clueless teenage boys. And of course, my boy believes everything they say as gospel! Of course, the boys he's talking to have never had sex themselves --yet they all know so much! Oy Vey!
He is relentless about talking to ME about it. When I finally say, "You are not ready for the kind of relationship that comes along with sex. There is too much emotion involved and you have trouble regulating emotions as it is."
His response?
"I'm not talking about a relationship...I'm just talking about sex...you know with one of those girls who just goes after anybody."
"And you think this is going to happen in MY house?"
OH MY GOD! This boy is so clueless! That was the end of the conversation right there. I was beyond done. Yes --he needs to talk to his father, his brother and his uncles. He also needs a book and a class specifically for teenage boys with Aspergers. God help him! You can bet I'll be signing him up for one this summer!
Thankfully, he started arguing with his brother a few minutes later --at least that changed the subject. After yelling and a coming to blows, a few minutes later -they have a meeting of the minds where they are trying to understand each other's Aspergers quirks. Unbelievable!
A few minutes later -Red comes bounding down the stairs to tell me his friend from school is on his way to pick him up to go to Youth Night at his church. Whew! Thank you Jesus a night of peace for me!
He comes home hours later, with a huge smile on his face. "OMG mom! I had so much fun. The music was great! It wasn't too loud. The youth pastor was cool! There were all kinds of kids there from other schools. There were girls! And this guy at church gave me this book."
"The BOOK of Answers."
I wonder if there's a chapter in the book on having sex in your parents house with whores?
Tickle my ears with your comments...
I know for sure that I live in the craziest house in Texas....or at least in my neighborhood. There can not be another house where you have a 16-year-old son that comes in the house from school without even saying hello and asks, "Will you and dad let me have sex as long as it's protected --in my room?" Followed up by an intense fight with his younger brother...and then off to church with some new friends from school where he has the "best time ever"?! Yep-this is a f-ing crazy house!
I don't know. This whole ...having no filter thing can be a little much for me sometimes. I'm just not ready, nor do I think I will ever be ready, for the whole sex conversation with this boy. I feel like it's inappropriate for me as his mother to get into this detailed conversation with him.
"Talk to your father, your older brother, your uncles, your pastor --anyone but me!" I tell him.
Apparently -there was some conversation going on about the subject at school with a bunch of other clueless teenage boys. And of course, my boy believes everything they say as gospel! Of course, the boys he's talking to have never had sex themselves --yet they all know so much! Oy Vey!
He is relentless about talking to ME about it. When I finally say, "You are not ready for the kind of relationship that comes along with sex. There is too much emotion involved and you have trouble regulating emotions as it is."
His response?
"I'm not talking about a relationship...I'm just talking about sex...you know with one of those girls who just goes after anybody."
"And you think this is going to happen in MY house?"
OH MY GOD! This boy is so clueless! That was the end of the conversation right there. I was beyond done. Yes --he needs to talk to his father, his brother and his uncles. He also needs a book and a class specifically for teenage boys with Aspergers. God help him! You can bet I'll be signing him up for one this summer!
Thankfully, he started arguing with his brother a few minutes later --at least that changed the subject. After yelling and a coming to blows, a few minutes later -they have a meeting of the minds where they are trying to understand each other's Aspergers quirks. Unbelievable!
A few minutes later -Red comes bounding down the stairs to tell me his friend from school is on his way to pick him up to go to Youth Night at his church. Whew! Thank you Jesus a night of peace for me!
He comes home hours later, with a huge smile on his face. "OMG mom! I had so much fun. The music was great! It wasn't too loud. The youth pastor was cool! There were all kinds of kids there from other schools. There were girls! And this guy at church gave me this book."
"The BOOK of Answers."
I wonder if there's a chapter in the book on having sex in your parents house with whores?
Tickle my ears with your comments...
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Adelaide Dupont · 285 weeks ago
And for those of us who knew and appreciated these points in high school to a greater or lesser extent - always good to have a refresher and feel them through the current and future generations who we survived to be able to see.
I especially appreciated points 5, 7 and 10.
And young women not settling or settling down yet is a good thing.
"It's never too late to live our dreams" - but it may be too early for some of them!
And 8 of course.
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Maira L. Coral · 216 weeks ago
I was looking for information for my Multi-Genre Disability Research Project from my Early Childhood Special Education class on the web, when suddenly I came across your blog. I started reading this out of curiosity and I want to tell you that as you said yourself, you will not be Amanda Gorman, but you managed to make me shed some tears, perhaps because I felt totally identified with your words, especially in the part that you speak of your son. My son also has Asperger's syndrome, he is 19 years old and he is in the second semester of College. Also like yours, he takes classes from home, likewise my eldest daughter is also taking college classes from her room. At the same time, that I work as a preschool teacher from my kitchen through a computer, my husband sleeps in the room during the day because he works at night. Also in the afternoons I myself take virtual school classes. I am a 51-year-old Latin woman who began to learn the English language as adult, so maybe you find some deficiencies in my writing, however, I was very moved by how proud you express yourself about your son. Referent your mother, I liked the humorous tone that you give when your talk about her, so I did not want to miss this opportunity and stopped my assignments for a moment to let you know that your words do make a difference, since they reach the heart of at least those who have opportunity to read you. I want confess you that is the most long I have written to someone I don't know, because your words inspired me, thank you...
Gavin Bollard · 209 weeks ago
Thanks for this post. I've been very distracted of late and so this was how I found out about our friend Kate. Kate's struggles were very real but they were so constant and so wide-ranging that it was difficult for people around her to address them. I think it's going to take a while longer for me to process all this.
I learned so much from Kate because she was always quick to point out the many injustices in the world. In her glory days, she was very much a crusader and she cared for everyone. Over the years, as her situation took its toll, I came to realise that it was the fact that she couldn't be put in a single specific category, that made the system fail her. She needed help that they weren't set up to provide.
She needed more care and she needed to be less alone. I'm so sorry that this has happened.
For a long while we were corresponding almost every day but a couple of months ago, I realised that she had become so stressed that nearly every interaction I had with her was starting to trigger her. I backed away to give her a bit more space. She only had a little time that she could stand to be online and there were too many things that she wanted to do in that time. I thought that by taking a step back, she could reach out to more people who might be geographically closer and able to assist.
Kate was a beautiful soul and she will be sorely missed by all of us.
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Spoil your cat · 122 weeks ago
Many of these living arrangement aren't good, and many of the people who run those places really don't have the residents' best interest at heart. Those places are like old age homes and foster homes, where you sometimes hear horror stories. They're hard to trust. But then there are good ones, of course.
The best thing for an autistic adult is either to go on living at home or working and renting an apartment and living independently, but that isn't always an option.
Duncan · 112 weeks ago