The flowers and trees are blooming, the grass is greening up, there's a warm breeze blowing, the sun is shining. It's Spring -one of the most beautiful seasons of the year. You can get outside and enjoy nature again. You can go for a nice hike, a jog, a bike ride or a walk outdoors. The cloudy days of winter are gone...but not for my boy. The clouds are still hovering over his head.
For some reason, this is always the most difficult season of the year for Red. It is historically noted that by the time March and April roll around --he is done with school. He's ready to check out for the year...go home and have a nice long vacation from stress. This time of the year gets more stressful at school. They are preparing for state testing. Curriculum in classes is reaching a climax and getting more rigorous. Work at school is climbing the mountain while he is retreating back down the hill.
I pick both boys up from school so that we can get Red to his Social Skills Coaching appointment. We have a little time to kill. I had heard good things about Bull Creek Park here in Austin and it's very close to where we are going. I decide to check it out. It is awesome! There's a great creek that runs through a hiking trail.
Blue and I get out of the card to check out the scene. Where is Red? He's in the car...screaming, "What are you doing!??? Where are you guys going!? Come baaackk!" We keep walking. Blue and I decide to climb down into this little cove where we can put our feet in the water. Red can no longer see us from the car. He decides to get out of the car to come and see what the hell we are doing. We are in heaven experiencing the beauty of nature. Blue tells me that we are sitting on limestone.
"Limestone can grow plants out of it. That's why you see these plants coming up."
We start to chuck rocks into the deeper part of the creek. We're just chillin'. Red vacillates back and forth between thinking that this would be a really cool place to video, while at the same time hating the fact that Blue and I are enjoying ourselves.
He starts to call Blue names.
"You look like a girl!"
"You look like Mindy." (A girl who used to be in his class)
"And you act like her too."
"Mindy. Mindy, Mindy."
Blue and I splash around in the water. He ignores Red. It kills him that he's not able to push his buttons. When we get in the car he says, "Why isn't Blue getting mad? He always gets mad when we're at home." If Blue could only have the strength to ignore him more often, he just might loose his determination and will to annoy him.
When we get to his Social Skills coach, she tells me that Michelle Garcia, of the popular Social Thinking
has these characters she calls "The Unthinkables." Apparently, Red was busy being "Mean Jean Destroyer of Fun." His super powers are, "Insulting others...he can be very bossy and hog all of the attention."
Oh -so you mean...it's not just Red. There are other "Destroyers of Fun" lurking around in our universe. Red is becoming mean and ugly to us, because he's tired of school. We love him. We are a safe place to take out all of his frustrations. Lucky us!
So now we just have to figure out how to beat "Mean Jean -Destroyer of Fun" at his own game.
Any suggestions?
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For some reason, this is always the most difficult season of the year for Red. It is historically noted that by the time March and April roll around --he is done with school. He's ready to check out for the year...go home and have a nice long vacation from stress. This time of the year gets more stressful at school. They are preparing for state testing. Curriculum in classes is reaching a climax and getting more rigorous. Work at school is climbing the mountain while he is retreating back down the hill.
I pick both boys up from school so that we can get Red to his Social Skills Coaching appointment. We have a little time to kill. I had heard good things about Bull Creek Park here in Austin and it's very close to where we are going. I decide to check it out. It is awesome! There's a great creek that runs through a hiking trail.
Blue and I get out of the card to check out the scene. Where is Red? He's in the car...screaming, "What are you doing!??? Where are you guys going!? Come baaackk!" We keep walking. Blue and I decide to climb down into this little cove where we can put our feet in the water. Red can no longer see us from the car. He decides to get out of the car to come and see what the hell we are doing. We are in heaven experiencing the beauty of nature. Blue tells me that we are sitting on limestone.
"Limestone can grow plants out of it. That's why you see these plants coming up."
We start to chuck rocks into the deeper part of the creek. We're just chillin'. Red vacillates back and forth between thinking that this would be a really cool place to video, while at the same time hating the fact that Blue and I are enjoying ourselves.
He starts to call Blue names.
"You look like a girl!"
"You look like Mindy." (A girl who used to be in his class)
"And you act like her too."
"Mindy. Mindy, Mindy."
Blue and I splash around in the water. He ignores Red. It kills him that he's not able to push his buttons. When we get in the car he says, "Why isn't Blue getting mad? He always gets mad when we're at home." If Blue could only have the strength to ignore him more often, he just might loose his determination and will to annoy him.
When we get to his Social Skills coach, she tells me that Michelle Garcia, of the popular Social Thinking
has these characters she calls "The Unthinkables." Apparently, Red was busy being "Mean Jean Destroyer of Fun." His super powers are, "Insulting others...he can be very bossy and hog all of the attention."
Oh -so you mean...it's not just Red. There are other "Destroyers of Fun" lurking around in our universe. Red is becoming mean and ugly to us, because he's tired of school. We love him. We are a safe place to take out all of his frustrations. Lucky us!
So now we just have to figure out how to beat "Mean Jean -Destroyer of Fun" at his own game.
Any suggestions?
______________________
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Adelaide Dupont · 285 weeks ago
And for those of us who knew and appreciated these points in high school to a greater or lesser extent - always good to have a refresher and feel them through the current and future generations who we survived to be able to see.
I especially appreciated points 5, 7 and 10.
And young women not settling or settling down yet is a good thing.
"It's never too late to live our dreams" - but it may be too early for some of them!
And 8 of course.
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Maira L. Coral · 216 weeks ago
I was looking for information for my Multi-Genre Disability Research Project from my Early Childhood Special Education class on the web, when suddenly I came across your blog. I started reading this out of curiosity and I want to tell you that as you said yourself, you will not be Amanda Gorman, but you managed to make me shed some tears, perhaps because I felt totally identified with your words, especially in the part that you speak of your son. My son also has Asperger's syndrome, he is 19 years old and he is in the second semester of College. Also like yours, he takes classes from home, likewise my eldest daughter is also taking college classes from her room. At the same time, that I work as a preschool teacher from my kitchen through a computer, my husband sleeps in the room during the day because he works at night. Also in the afternoons I myself take virtual school classes. I am a 51-year-old Latin woman who began to learn the English language as adult, so maybe you find some deficiencies in my writing, however, I was very moved by how proud you express yourself about your son. Referent your mother, I liked the humorous tone that you give when your talk about her, so I did not want to miss this opportunity and stopped my assignments for a moment to let you know that your words do make a difference, since they reach the heart of at least those who have opportunity to read you. I want confess you that is the most long I have written to someone I don't know, because your words inspired me, thank you...
Gavin Bollard · 209 weeks ago
Thanks for this post. I've been very distracted of late and so this was how I found out about our friend Kate. Kate's struggles were very real but they were so constant and so wide-ranging that it was difficult for people around her to address them. I think it's going to take a while longer for me to process all this.
I learned so much from Kate because she was always quick to point out the many injustices in the world. In her glory days, she was very much a crusader and she cared for everyone. Over the years, as her situation took its toll, I came to realise that it was the fact that she couldn't be put in a single specific category, that made the system fail her. She needed help that they weren't set up to provide.
She needed more care and she needed to be less alone. I'm so sorry that this has happened.
For a long while we were corresponding almost every day but a couple of months ago, I realised that she had become so stressed that nearly every interaction I had with her was starting to trigger her. I backed away to give her a bit more space. She only had a little time that she could stand to be online and there were too many things that she wanted to do in that time. I thought that by taking a step back, she could reach out to more people who might be geographically closer and able to assist.
Kate was a beautiful soul and she will be sorely missed by all of us.
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Spoil your cat · 122 weeks ago
Many of these living arrangement aren't good, and many of the people who run those places really don't have the residents' best interest at heart. Those places are like old age homes and foster homes, where you sometimes hear horror stories. They're hard to trust. But then there are good ones, of course.
The best thing for an autistic adult is either to go on living at home or working and renting an apartment and living independently, but that isn't always an option.
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